( Sorry it has been so ridiculously long since i have posted!!)

I look around me and I see so many girls obsessed with the idea of getting and having a man. In a way they are saying they are not complete if they do not have a man attached to their arm. Why do you feel like you have to work so hard to get noticed? Maybe I am just old fashioned, but it was my understanding that guys are supposed to pursue girls and not the complete opposite. I feel like I have no reason to go out of my way to talk to a guy. If someone was interested in me, LET HIM BE INTERESTED in me. I am just sick and tired of seeing girls throw themselves at boys. It is ridiculous and if I was the man I would never want a girl who threw herself at me. I can understand healthy flirting; ( :D ) but that is completely different from being in complete and total desperation.

Recently I have discovered, (this may shock you, so brace yourselves) that I am really not in a hurry to tie the knot. Not to say I never want to. But I am just not desperate whatsoever. I am completely fine with waiting for the Lords will for me. Life is not all about only finding a guy. Who knows, I may never get one. If we, girls, spend our lives pursuing boys where does that leave room to pursue God? If I am putting my everything in God, then that’s it HE WOULD BE MY EVERYTHING! I am complete in God. He should be my all and my one driving force. If He was my everything I would not feel the need (and I do not feel this need) to flirt with and pursue every good looking man that comes along.

I see girls doing this; obsessing over some guy that may or may not ever make a move towards them. What then? I obsess over a man for 6 months and he never asks me out (or to court me or date me or whatever) then I have just wasted 6 months of my life!! Not to mention the trauma I would undergo when I see that man go off and marry some other woman. Maybe if these girls made God their entire focus He would bless them with a man. However, you can’t just focus on God with that goal in mind because then you are not really focusing on God. I say if you are really living your life for Him and cultivating your personal relationship in Him then the rest wouldn’t matter.

I remember talking to my sister Kimberly maybe a year after she was married. (For all my readers who don’t know, my sister married later in her 20s; much to her chagrin.) She told me, that no matter what, if we put our everything in to the man, finding a man ect, he will always disappoint. He is human obviously. Her point was that GOD WILL NEVER DISAPPOINT US. Obsessing over boys I think can be dangerous. They will not fulfill everything. Only a relationship with Christ will. I reckon this all does sound like I am saying, “I DON’T NEED A MAN,” however, that really isn’t the point of this. I am merely saying that I will not throw myself at any man, because if that is what it takes to get one then I would rather be single.I do not feel as though I have to work for love. I refuse to stoop to that level. I want to use my time focusing on God… Not obsessing and being desperate to find a man. If it is in Gods will for me to be married why should I stress over it?

Okay soapbox over.

Just thinking
Love always

Holly Dee <3